Monday, January 26, 2009

THREE DAYS OFF

In our culture a new parent can get at least 6 weeks off from a job for the birth of a baby, but only 3 days off when a loved one dies. It seems that we rush the process of death. Is it because it's uncomfortable? Awkward? Untimely? Too heinious to deal with? My friend lost her husband and I made this card for her. But I know it's not enough. What else can I do? I know she won't ever "get over it"; especially in 3 days! I want to be a good friend to people during grief and sorrow. It's easy to be a friend through joy and happiness. But we're needed most through the "ugly" stuff. Here's a list that God has impressed me to do: Allow my friend to talk, cry, be angry, whatever; guard against offering "cliches" of sympathy; invite her places, do things with her; offer practical help and follow through; avoid suggestions; be patient with her process; talk about her spouse and don't be afraid to help her remember the good stuff; pray for her. Lord help my friend through her pain. Give her a hug today that will provide comfort and security. Help me be a good friend - guide me through this process and may we both grow in You.
Products Used for this Design:

Stamps: Well Wishes by Hero Arts, SU Curvy Verses
Paper: Papertrey White, SU Brilliant Blue, Pumpkin Pie
Ink: B.Black, Brilliant Blue, Pumpkin Pie, Garden Green, Spica Pens
Accessories: SU Ribbon, Dimensionals, Spica Pens, Mini Dew Drops

6 comments:

cmc2stamp said...

Christine, such a lovely card, and a wonderful list...you are such a wonderful friend and I am sure she appreciates everything you do for her! I am very sorry for her loss.

Betty Wright aka gbedwright said...

Beautiful, Christine!!!! Love your very thoughtful card and the commentary is so poignant. I will keep you and your friend in my prayers.

Great blog!!!! Have a Blessed Day!!!!

imastampin said...

Christine, I love your card, but even more I love your list of inspiration. You've truly captured so many wonderful gifts you can give her at this difficult time. I'm so sorry for her loss. Another one you may want to add is to remember her on the day of the loss each year, just to let her know you haven't forgotten either of them. You're such a good friend. Bless you!

Hugs,
Karen

Riley said...

This is a gorgeous card... wow! I really love the colors!

Jeanette - said...

Such a beautiful card and beautiful thoughts! I'm sure she appreciates you!

Dawn Mercedes said...

This is Gorgeous! (And you do need to update!!)